Bedwetting in older children can cause a great deal of stress and anxiety for both parents and children, especially if you feel you are doing everything you can to help your child. Remember that there should be a children’s NHS continence clinic in your area to advise you and your child ( ask your doctor or school nurse for details). And it’s very important to continue to handle the situation with patience and in a way that shows your child that you’re there to help and support them through this phase.

Here are some tips to help you feel more in control:


Have reasonable expectations

Accidents at night are not something your child has control over, even as they get older. Bedwetting has many causes and accidents can happen no matter what you and your child do to prevent them, so be patient and supportive. If a certain course of action isn't working straight away, don't give up.

Encourage calm bedtimes

Going to bed in the right frame of mind will help your child to relax and sleep well. The anxiety and stress of bedwetting builds as bedtime draws near, so make sure your child enjoys some calming activities to help them minimise stress.  Switch off the TV and video games and encourage a relaxing bath and some quiet time to read or catch up on the day’s events instead.

Take care of yourself

It’s understandable that you put your child’s need before your own. However, interrupted sleep and worrying about the situation is likely having an impact on you too. Take time to rest and find something to help you relax, like enjoying a walk or spending time with friends. Your wellbeing is also important, and can have a very positive influence on your child too.

Don’t keep it to yourself

You are not alone. Many families are going through the same things as you, and connecting with people in the same situation can be a huge help. Sharing your feelings with a good friend or family member can also help you feel better about the situation.